She’s Come Undone
I finished a book this morning, She’s Come Undone
I don’t know if I would recommend this title, but I am seriously thinking about sending it to my dad. Not because it only relates to him, it related to me also. I think that any person could find that we all do the same things in our lives. We repress ourselves and if we get caught up in the pain of our childhood then we stay fourteen years old for the rest of our lives. The book was about moving forward, and becoming the person you are meant to be. It was about figuring out that you deserve to be loved, but you have to be completely honest with the people that love you. That is what love is anyway, being loved in spite of who you are.
I feel like in order to be loved you have to love yourself first. No one else is going to do the job that you are supposed to be doing and no one else can do it better than you. However, there is the point where you take it to far. That is not what I am talking about. You need to know the value of you. You need to know who you are and what you stand for. You need to know what your limits are and what you will and won’t put up with. You need to know that you are worth standing up for. You need to love yourself enough to be honest with yourself. No one else can fix you, it is completely up to you.
And then when you love yourself, other will love you too. I struggle with letting others love me. I keep myself guarded. People are not going to love you the way you think they should. Just because they are not doing it your way, does not mean they are doing it wrong.
“Accept what people offer. Drink their milkshakes. Take their love.”
I am learning.
On being crazy, she says, “It was a matter of perspective, I began to see. The whole world was crazy; I’d flattered myself by assuming I was a semifinalist.”
Aren’t we all kind of nutty? Some of us are just better at keeping a secret than others.
I guess we are all stunted children. We are all emotionally constipated. But when we finally let love in, we start to see what we are capable of, what we can do for others and what they are willing to do for us.
I think it has a lot to do with honesty and love. We all deserve love from people who are willing to give it without a price tag attached.
I liked this book, but it would easily be rated “R.” There is tons of bad language and a sex scene that made me feel dirty for a day. There is actually a lot of sex. It was pretty much like prime time tv, with more bad language. It is also 465 pages, but it only took me 4ish days to read, and I do other things a lot of the time.